If You Change Your Thinking You Will Change Your Life

In his book, 'You'll See It When You Believe It,' Dr. Wayne W Dyer states "Abundance is related to how you feel about yourself. If you feel important enough to ask, and divine enough to receive, receiving will be your reward." This is a very profound statement, for it asks the reader to look at his self or her self not so much with objectivity but with subjectivity: "What do I believe of myself deep inside? Do I really approve of myself? Can I look deep into my own eyes in a mirror and say, 'I approve of you?' You are a good person and I love you."

If there is any conflict between our real self and our image of ourselves it will show up here. If you truly do approve of yourself and love yourself there will be little self-consciousness or strain here. But if it's a lie you will feel it. Yes, even if it's just a little lie. So, if you really want to have your prayers answered you need to know at least these two things: What do I really want? And far more profoundly: Am I Divine?

We know that we have two parts to our minds, the objective conscious part and the subjective, subconscious part. And make no bones about it, the subconscious provides us with our view of both the world at large and how we fit into it. For the subconscious has been growing whatever we've been consciously or unconsciously planting in its fertile soil. Here lies our knowledge, our opinions, and our beliefs. Invariably we don't know as much about our beliefs and where they came from as we think we do. The reason for this is so much of it is hidden away in the deep recesses of that great subconscious mind.

Without going into a lot of detail here I will state a belief of my own. It is this: we have a personal subconscious mind which is permeable and surrounded by to a collective subconscious mind (Carl Jung's Collective Unconscious) and from there infinite links to what I term the Universal Mind. In other words, done right, we have access to higher realms of consciousness. Moreover, we can draw on these if we know what to do - that is, how to do it.

So maybe you want to know how it can be done.

Well, there probably are infinite ways, but I will mention only one: automatic writing (or automatic typing if you're skilled touch typist) and here is one way you can go about it. It something I have mentioned in previous essays but I'll describe it again here.

You can access your subconscious mind by receiving messages from your non-dominant hand. Briefly, you write a question or make a statement - for example, an affirmation you're making in order to bring something into your life. You do this with your dominant (usual) handwriting hand and receive the answers through your left.

In the '11 by 21 Exercise,' you write out your affirmation with your right hand. When the sentence is complete, you wait for your left hand to respond with its answer. It will. But it might take some perseverance before it gets going. You might have to try over a few days. However, once the first answer comes, they will keep coming.

Oh, and don't rubbish this if it doesn't work the first few times you try it. That way you are only strengthening the belief that it won't work. If you say it won't with enough emotion your subconscious will surely believe you!

Okay. You write out the statement eleven times, each time getting an answer. You do this three times a day for three weeks. Why three weeks? Well that is because it is generally accepted that it takes around three weeks to form a new habit. The habit you are encouraging here is to get your subconscious mind to accept your affirmation. Once it has done this it will work on this as a truth, a belief. And from thereon, because a belief has changed, your outside circumstances will change. You have to change what is within before what is outside changes.

Remember the wise words of the great Magi: "As above, so below; as within, so without."

Ponder on that.

But this essay is long enough. Try it. But be very careful with that affirmation. Make sure you state it in the present tense and that it is an affirmative statement. Once established in your subconscious as a truth it will have a powerful influence on you. That influence will stay on, leaving you only when it is superseded with another which counters its effects. So choose wisely.

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All You Need to Know About Anger Management Help

If anger is a human and natural reaction, you know that you need to get help of some sort when you're brining it and taking it too far. A lot of anger management resources are available today so there is no reason that you should not seek anger management help if you need it.

Exactly What is Anger Management Help?

Anger management help can take many forms; from anger management courses and classes to anger management counseling. In other words, any type of resources that you attend and seek out to help you manage your anger are considered as being forms of anger management help.

Anger Management Help Tip #1: Relaxation

If you find that you need a way to help relieve and deal with your anger, the first thing you can do is to attempt meditation and other relaxation techniques on your own. Simply sitting in a quiet room and practicing breathing techniques can help you to release your angry feelings. If this method works for you and you feel more at peace with yourself, you then obviously do not need to look for more anger management help.

Anger Management Help Tip #2: Attend Anger Management Classes

However, if relaxing on your own is simply not enough and does not work for you, you could then attend anger management classes. You probably have heard that knowing the cause of a problem is part of its solution. Well, that's the point of anger management classes. You can go there and learn everything you nee to manage your anger. You'll discover why people have anger, how anger works, how anger is expressed and how you can deal with and manage your anger so that it does not become a hurtful or dangerous thing.

Since there are anger management classes available all across the world, there's no doubt that you will be able to find one that is at least at a reasonable distance from your house or workplace. These classes are usually not expensive and are often even free. Because anger is such an incredibly serious issue, most of these resources try to make their services as open to as many people as they possibly can.

One last thing, either these methods work for you or not, you should consult with your doctor and notify him of your anger issues. Sometimes, a illness or a chemical imbalance in your body may be the cause of your anger and it will need to be dealt with.

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15 Keys to Incredible Confidence

There is no such thing as “confidence;” there is only confident behavior that results from confident thinking.

“Confident” people are people who are in the habit of portraying confident behaviors.  The more you “act” confidently, the more confident you will become.

You start off “faking” confidence, and you actually trick your mind into thinking that you are a confident person.  The more you fake it, the more genuine the confidence becomes.

Thinking confidently is a choice, you can choose to be shy and quiet, or you can choose to be confident.

There are times when you “act” shy, and there are times when you “act” confidently.  You are completely in control!  Don’t buy into the lie that you are “shy” around strangers or in front of a large crowd.  No!  You “act” shy when you want to act shy; you flip a switch and you say “Now I’m going to act shy, because I don’t know these people.”

Stop switching that shy switch; decide that you will be confident when you want to be confident.  Flip the confidence switch, and people will be amazed at the difference.  Imagine you’re an actor; you have to learn how to turn the confidence on, and turn it off.

What does confidence look like? 

Think of a time when you were confident, either talking to a group, or one-on-one with someone.  How did you act; how did you speak; did you make large hand gestures?  That’s what confidence looks like on you; now all you have to do is to channel that version of you whenever you want to appear confident, that’s the secret.

Below I have documented fifteen behaviors to remind you of what confidence looks like.

Remember, when you have confident behavior, that behavior will notify your mind that you are confident.  Thereby increasing your confidence, and round-and-round we go, until you have incredible confidence and poise as a result of practicing confident behaviors.

15 Keys to Incredible Confidence:

1. Take Up Space

Confident people lean back in their chairs, they make large purposeful hand gestures, they spread out their files when in a meeting, they take up space…they don’t have a problem taking up space, you should do the same; don’t shrink, expand to show confidence.

2. Don’t Fidget

Can you imagine James Bond fidgeting, it’s not very becoming; you want to appear perfectly in control of every bodily movement.  All of your movements should be meaningful, they should matter.  You must make purposeful movements to appear confident.

3. Stand Erect

Stand tall, even when you’re sitting.  A great posture is a sure fire way to ensure that you both look and feel confident.  Chest out, shoulders back, and keep your head level: both vertically and horizontally.   This will help you to exude confidence.  You should walk as if you’re being pulled perfectly upright by a string in the sky (attached to the top of your head).

4. Speak Slowly, and with Confidence

If you speak a million miles/kilometers a second, then it’s hard to sound confident.   Confident people take their time when they speak, because they are confident enough to believe that you will wait to hear what they have to say.  Don’t rush; pause, take your time, and be relaxed when you speak.

You always want to appear to be cool, calm and collected.  The more nervous you are, the slower you should speak; speak as if you’re talking to a child.  Speaking slowly will help you to re-gain your confidence.

5. Be Yourself

Often people say, “Act like someone else, if you want to appear confident.”  I think that’s bad advice; it’s too much to think about.  Act like yourself!  You’ve been confident before, you know what confidence looks like on you.  That’s the confidence that you need to bring to the table.  Be your confident self, be bold; don’t make excuses!  Remember how you acted when you were confident in the past; turn on that confidence switch.

6. Pay Attention and Make Eye Contact

Confident people pay attention to others because they’re not overly focused on themselves.

When you focus on others you will appear more engaged, charismatic and confident.  When you listen to others, with your ears as well as with your eyes, you will be able to ask great questions.  Others will interpret your engagement, eye contact, and interaction as pure confidence.

7. Move Slow

Think of a lion; slow purposeful movements, exuding confidence, knowing that you can do what you will.

Slow down to speed up your confidence.  Don’t be like a roach, panicking at every sudden movement by another; you want to be graceful and elegant.  Powerful and poised!

8. Ruffle a Few Feathers

Confident people don’t mind ruffling a few feathers.  I’m not saying that you should ruffle feathers for the sake of ruffling feathers.  I am saying that you should stick up for what you believe in, and if you have to ruffle a few feathers in the process, then that’s what you have to do.  The goal of appearing confident is not to get people to like you, necessarily, but to respect you.

9. Steeple Your Hands

When you steeple your hands (pressing the fingers of one hand, against the fingers of your other hand in the shape of a steeple), you signal to others, as well as to yourself, that you’re confident.  Try using this steeple gesture when you’re not feeling confident as a way to conjure up additional confidence.

10. Don’t Try to Please Everyone

Does a king try to please everyone; no it’s the courtier in the King’s court constantly bowing and gesturing for approval.  Confident people are not dependent on the constant acceptance of others.  Act like a king, confident people do not obsess with pleasing everyone.

11. Pause Before You Speak

Nervous people can’t help but to try to fill every silent moment with meaningless chatter.  They can’t wait for the conversation to be over, and so they try to speed through it. Confident people are comfortable with silence.

To show extreme confidence, pause a second or two before you speak.  Think about what the other person has said before you respond; let your face show that you’re pondering their thoughts.  This will significantly increase how confident you appear.

12. Don’t Cackle

Don’t give away a laugh too easily, don’t be a cackler.  It doesn’t come across very confidently.  Make people work for a good laugh; you can flash them a smile, or a calm chuckle, but don’t give away the circus too easily.

13. Don’t Offer Constant Reassurance

When speaking with others, try the single head nod, versus the “bobble head doll” version of saying yes constantly.  When you agree, give a single nod.

It’s difficult to look confident when your head is bouncing around on your neck like a bobble head doll.

14. Do Everything in the Open, Nothing in the Dark

Occasionally, being nervous arises from doing things that you’re not supposed to be doing.  If you have to constantly look over your shoulder, perhaps you should reconsider your activities.  Confidence comes from within; to exude confidence, you must have a clear conscious, and you must speak and live from a place of authenticity.

15. Finally, If You Don’t Know, Say You Don’t Know

If you want to convince someone that you know what you’re talking about, give them a timely, “I don’t know the answer to that question yet.”  Confident people recognize that they can’t possibly know the answer to every question, and they are confident enough to let you know they don’t know.  When you don’t know the answer, don’t fumble around; just say you don’t know yet.  This will help you to exude confidence.

In Closing

You absolutely have what it takes to be confident, starting today, right now!  You don’t have to sign-up for a confidence course or read a dozen more articles or books.  You just have to turn on the switch; you’ve been confident in the past, and you can be confident whenever you so choose.

Choose to be confident, practice confidence, practice turning on your confidence in the grocery store, in the mall, or when hanging out with friends, so when you really need it, it will be there.

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5 Life-Changing Keys to Success

There’s an old English proverb that goes, “God is every bird a worm, but he doesn’t throw it in their nest.”  To succeed, we must follow the principles that cause success.  When you follow the principles you will succeed every time.

Today I want to discuss five life-changing keys to success that will position you to succeed, to be your best, and to live the life of your dreams.

5 Life-Changing Keys to Success: 

1. Do Your Best

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”

~Og Mandino

Your todays are the building blocks of your tomorrows.  Give each day your very best and you will have built your very best life.  The key is to build the habit of giving your best in everything you do.  Don’t spend your time rushing, but spend it creating quality building blocks for tomorrow.  Spend your todays creating a future that you will be proud of.

2. Choose

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

~Wayne Dyer

John Donne said, “Be thine own palace, or the world’s thy jail.”  The choice is yours!  If you choose to see the “bad” in everything then that’s exactly what you’ll see.  I know it’s crude, but if you look for a “bugger” then you will find one.  Choose to be optimistic; you are much more likely to succeed if you believe that you will succeed, much more likely.

3. Be Confident

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

~Norman Vincent Peale

If you don’t believe you will succeed, why would anyone else, you know you best, you know if you’re capable of succeeding or not.  I’m not saying that you should be arrogant but, you should be confident in your abilities.  Why not you?  Why not now?  If someone else can succeed, then that’s just proof that you can succeed as well.  Be confident in your abilities and set out to achieve your dreams.

4. Work

“Determine never to be idle. No person will have occasion to complain of the want of time who never loses any. It is wonderful how much may be done if we are always doing.”

~Thomas Jefferson

Solomon said, “Idle hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth.”  No one succeeds without hard work.  There’s no such thing as success without hard work.  No butterfly flies without first struggling to get out of the chrysalis.  To fly, you must first struggle, you can’t fly into flying.

5. Make a Difference

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”

~William James

You make a difference.  One person with determination, persistence, and a “no-give-up” attitude will accomplish more than a thousand people who are merely interested in success.

What you do makes a difference, how you do it makes a difference, so do what you do to the best of your abilities, leveraging the wisdom of others, and in time, you will succeed.

Thank you for reading, mrselfdevelopment.com, where every article changes your life, and puts you on the path to success.

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7 Must-Read Success Lessons from Les Brown

Leslie C. “Les” Brown is a motivational speaker, former U.S. politician, popular author, radio DJ, and former host of The Les Brown Show.

Les Brown was born with his twin brother Wesley on February 17, 1945 in a low-income section of Miami, Florida in an abandoned building. He was subsequently given up for adoption and adopted by Mamie Brown, a then 38-year-old single woman who worked as a cafeteria attendant and domestic assistant. He was declared “educably mentally retarded” while in grade school. Despite the obvious self-esteem issues this created, with the encouragement of his mother and assistance by a helpful teacher in high school, he learned how to reach his full potential, a key point in many motivational speeches he gives now.

7 Must-Read Success Lessons from Les Brown:

1. Learn to Win

“There are winners, there are losers, and there are people who have not yet learned how to win.”

Know which battles you shouldn’t be trying to win.  Play to your strengths, there are some things that you will never succeed in, more importantly, there are some things that ONLY you can succeed in.

2. Plant a Tree

“Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”

This Web site has almost 8,000 subscribers because several years ago, I decided to start a self-development Web site, with 1 subscriber, myself.

To sit in the shade you must first plant a tree.  Plant a tree today, though it be small, it’s latter end will be great.

3. Twice Every Day

“Review your goals twice every day in order to be focused on achieving them. Goals help you channel your energy into action.”

Place your goals in a place where you see them every day.  If you don’t see them, you will forget about them.  If you forget about them, it is self-evident that you will not achieve them.  Place your top three goals in a place where you will see them every day.

4. Stretch Yourself

“If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness.”

To change your life, you must change the way you think.

In January of this year I listened to/read 27 books.  On January 31st, I saw things very differently then I saw them on January 1st – my consciousness had expanded.

Stretch yourself, challenge yourself; challenge the way you think, challenge what you eat, what you read, how you spend your time – you change by stretching yourself.

5. Get Your “But” Out the Way

“The only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the buts you use today.”

…But I’m too old, too young, I’ve waited too long, I’ve messed up too many times, I’m misunderstood.  Your path to success is being blocked by your “but.”  Why you’re saying how and why something can’t be done, there’s somebody out there doing it.  Get your “but” out the way!

6. Land on Your Back

“When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up. Let your reason get you back up.”

You may have been knocked down, you may be convinced that you won’t succeed, but if you can look up, you can get up.  Get up one more time!  You are not your past mistakes; you have within you the ability to succeed, so look up!

7. Change

“You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.”

At the end of the day, these are just cute quotes if you don’t decide to change.  You have to make a decision, you have to decide to maximize your potential.

Good is not good enough when you’re destined to be great.  Get up, look up, and succeed!

Thank you for reading, mrselfdevelopment.com, where every article changes your life, and puts you on the path to success.

4 Tips For Making the Most of Your Mornings

 When interviewed about the keys to success, it's astounding how many leaders swear to the importance and effectiveness of their morning routine. While I recognize that in our 24-7, global world, each person's morning may vary, the research definitely indicates that starting your "day" with purpose is critical. Following are 4 top tips for making the most of your mornings:

1. Be Prepared. Preparing for the following day is a great place to start for a few reasons. First, it's generally much calmer before the storm. By taking the time to sit down in the quiet, away from the noise, interruptions, worries and details of the work day, successful people are able to more objectively and clearly assess the most important tasks for the following day. Second, studies reveal that the brain is never at rest and that, when individuals "program" it prior to sleep, it actually continues to work on problems without our own consciousness. By placing an issue or problem in your psyche just before going to sleep, you are actually allowing it to find solutions unencumbered by your own conscious bias.

2. Wake Naturally. With the exception of those individuals who are "morning people" (the kind that tend to just spring up and jump out of bed with a smile without the need for an alarm), most successful people will admit that they at first had some challenges with getting started in the morning. Let's face it, nobody enjoys being rudely pulled from the realm of dreams and startled to life by a shrieking box from across the room. But, thanks to new wearable devices and smartphone apps, individuals are able to wake more naturally. Rather than being abruptly jolted from restful slumber by an annoying alarm clock, these technologies gently wake you when they detect you are in the lightest phases of sleep. This slight adjustment can make all the difference in helping individuals to establish a better pattern of waking.

3. Fuel Up. Everyone has heard the old adage that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, but for some reason, not enough people are following this sage advice. Research shows that investing the time and energy to prepare and consume a healthy breakfast has positive effects on both body and mind. After lying in a resting state for 6-8 hours, the entire being needs nutrition to help jump start its physiological functioning. Regardless of individuals preferences on the size and substance of this early morning meal, breakfast can definitely help you to make the most of your morning.

4. Review Your Plan. Once you've prepared and slept on the issues that you'll face today, spend an hour or so during breakfast to reflect upon and review the plan that you created last night. Look at things with the refreshed perspective that rest provides. Quite often, individuals admit that they have gained new insight during the course of the night. Make the most of your time and energy to streamline the tasks that lay ahead.

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